9 Nuggets to Help Make Positive Life Changes

Gisa Ellis-Mawer
Gisa Ellis-Mawer
The Founder of Gisa Ellis Consulting

You might face a difficult situation like a health issue, divorce, job loss or a major disagreement and you feel it necessary to make some changes.

Whatever it is, it takes guts to initiate the change and make it happen. Especially when you fear upsetting the apple cart, you lack in confidence or you don’t really know where to start.

Let’s face it, change means leaving your comfort zone and jumping into the unknown while being uncertain of the outcome.

The following 9 nuggets might help you to deal with inner and outer resistance and to go forward.

1. Trust Yourself

Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do -Benjamin Spock

Any decision about your life is down to you, because you live with the consequences. Therefore, listen to yourself and trust yourself before you take on someone else’s opinion. Other people don’t walk in your shoes, you know best. If you are unsure about what your intuition is telling you, you can meditate for 5 to 10 minutes and ask for guidance.

If you need advice about a specific issue, ask someone who knows what they are talking about. You can’t know everything, so there is no harm in asking questions, even if they sound dumb to you. Only real and brave people admit when they need help. There is no such thing like a dumb question.

2. You Can Do It

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t -you’re right ― Henry Ford

You are a beautiful and unique human being with your own purpose. There is no one else like you. Sometimes what you perceive to be your biggest weakness might turn out to be one of your biggest strengths. To achieve you must believe in yourself!

Don’t listen to people who tell you what you can’t do or be, but listen to people who encourage you to follow your call instead. Sometimes other people resist change because of their own fear or because your change will inconvenience them.

3. Dream Big and Clear

The future belongs to those who believe in the future of their dreams’-Elizabeth Roosevelt

Your ideal life starts with your dream, so dream big. Make sure what you dream about is what you really want, what serves you and what makes you feel passionate and happy. Be clear and see yourself already where you want to be. Think and talk only positive about your dream, focus on it, let all doubts go –if you can dream it you can have it!

4. Prepare

A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by actions makes your dreams come true -Greg S. Reid

It is one thing to know where you want to go, it is another to know how to get there. Therefore, whether you like it or not it is important to prepare and think ahead. You can make a start playing with different scenarios and work out the best way to go. If you feel a bit unsure or thinking ahead is not one of your strengths –you have a lot of others instead –you may consider getting some outside help to avoid procrastinating.

Define where you want to go, look at where you are at and establish the gap in between. Try to work out what steps you need to take to bridge the gap between the two.

Put the key steps on paper and keep looking at them to monitor your progress. Don’t be afraid to adjust your plan of action if circumstances change. You don’t have to take your plan as gospel. Being flexible and going with the flow of life is important.

5. Mix Well

It’s not where you are in the world, it’s who you have by your side that matters -Unknown

It is an amazing gift to have great friends and family who love you, support you, don’t judge you, have your best interest at heart and at the same time are not afraid to tell you when they feel you are wrong.

It takes time to figure out who falls into that category. Unless someone has proven to you over time that they love, respect and support you in whatever you feel is right for yourself, be wary to what you disclose. Change is a sensitive, vulnerable time and you have to protect yourself from people trying to steer you in the wrong direction.

6. Just Do It

Every damn day. Just do it –NIKE 

You can dream, think and plan as much as you like. There comes a point when you just have to do what it takes to make it all happen. You have to take responsibility and realise that nobody else is going to do it for you.

Make sure you always do the most important things first and attend to crucial details as they can make the difference in the end. Whatever you can do today don’t put it off until tomorrow because who knows what challenges you will face tomorrow.

7. Be Brave and Fearless

Be brave and fearless to know that even if you make a wrong decision it was for a good reason – Adele 

Fear can be a good thing because it can show you real danger zones and prevent you from harm. However, when it is unfounded and you give in, it can also stifle you and keep you in limbo. It is normal to feel fear when you get out of your comfort zone. You can choose to ignore it, keep yourself busy and concentrate on the tasks on hand – eventually it will fade away.

8. Knocked Down ≠ Knocked Out

You don’t drown by falling in the water.  You drown by staying there –Edwin Louis Cole

Not always everything goes to plan and sometimes nothing goes to plan at all. As frustrating as it is, sometimes the only thing you can do is to accept it, to stay calm and to work on alternatives. Easier said than done, I know.

Sometimes you get a real knock back which leaves you feeling like you can’t get up and go on. Give yourself a little breather. You need time to recover, to learn your lesson, to take stock and to rethink. Be kind to yourself. But don’t stay in this place for too long, best to get up and get on. The only alternative is to quit –not!

Whatever happens, never lose your sense of humour and do keep smiling. It makes life a lot easier when you can see the funny side and have a good old laugh.

9. Endings and Beginnings

New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings – Lao Tzu

When you change, many things around you will start to change as well. You might want to let go of people and circumstances that were dear to you in the past. This is all part of the process and even when the transition feels painful, the main thing is that you stay true to yourself.

Accept that not everybody will understand or approve. Try to leave every situation and relationship with love, gratitude and blessings because there was a reason why it was in your life in the first place.

Occasionally the ‘old times or circumstances’ will start to look very appealing to you, but try to be realistic and don’t get too sentimental when that happens. It is most important to stay positive, remind yourself why you are doing all of this and visualise where you want to get to. Keep busy and stay open for new opportunities. They will come, because you opened the door for them to arrive.

Live in the moment. Be grateful for your past and your present. Be real. Have an open heart. Follow your own tune and love others so much to allow them to follow theirs.

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I would love to hear about your own experiences with change! xx

 

 

 

 

 

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